It's Not a Break Up, It's a Glow Up
Break ups suck. No ifs or buts, they’re just The Worst. They can be really scary, and painful, and awful, and unfortunately sometimes we just have to sit in that grief for a while in order to heal. But the good news is - you will heal. You always do. Every time you thought you wouldn’t, you have. You’re amazing! And your best self is waiting on the other side of this. It’s time to reframe your heartbreak. It’s not a break up, it’s a glow up.
Who you were in the relationship is gone. Bye! Thanks for playing, it’s been real. Right now, you’re free to be whoever you want, and do whatever you want. It’s time to rebrand babe! Try that pottery class your mum’s weird friend Cathy recommended, join a running group, buy that vibrator all your friends swear by, try to teach yourself Spanish so you can flirt with the cute Argentinian barista that winked at you last week (you’ve gotta get back out there sometime). Focus on yourself and your own potential, and before you know it, you’ll be looking and feeling better than ever. Then you can just sit back and let the compliments and DM’s roll in.
Whilst it’s all well and good for us to sit here and tell you that picking up painting as a hobby and dying your hair pink will fix your heartbreak, we know it’s not that easy. Sometimes your glow up isn’t physical or external - sometimes it’s mental and emotional. That kind of glow up happens because you’ve removed yourself from a situation that wasn’t good for you.
Maybe the relationship you left was dragging you down, or you were toxic for each other. Maybe you both held on for longer than you should have. You’re still allowed to miss them of course, but before we go pining too hard after a lost love, ask yourself:
Did we help each other grow as people?
Were we excited for each other when the other succeeded?
Did we respect each other's boundaries?
Were we both present when we spent time together?
Did we engage in things the other was interested in or passionate about?
Could I see myself sitting next to them on a porch when we’re 80?
If you answered ‘No’ to any of these - it’s time to let them go. It was for the better.
Now ask yourself this: Do I do these things for myself?
If you answered ‘No’ to that - then it’s time to relearn how to love yourself. Invest in your own growth. Cheer yourself on. Respect your own boundaries and listen to your gut. Take time to focus on yourself. Make room in your life to pursue and enjoy what you’re passionate about. Picture yourself at 80 and the life you want to look back at - and then go make it happen!
We’re sorry that you’re hurting. But we know that beautiful things are coming, and we can’t wait to see it. It’s time to glow, gorgeous!
If you’re going through your glow up at the moment, Take a peek and treat yourself to the self love you so very much deserve. Who needs a partner when you have VUSH on deck, right?
